Many
people use the internet to find love. It is known older people use sites like
match.com and eHarmony, while younger people
are more than likely to be found on tinder or OkCupid. Some people don't
like the idea of online dating, while others are willing to try. It’s up to you
and what you are looking for. Some dating apps are mostly for hookups, although
there are people on there looking for relationships. Sometimes people use
dating apps because they feel more comfortable than face-to-face right away.
These people are sometimes labeled as shy and introverted. Some people just use
it because they are lonely and they want that special someone in their life
(Whitty & Buchanan, 2009). There are many reasons why people choose
online dating and can be beneficial to a lot of people.
With
online dating, you get to learn about the other person and have room to meet
each other to see if there is chemistry in person. There is also room for
finding people with similar interests by looking at another’s profile and
seeing who attracts you by looking through one’s pictures. Once you get a
“match” like on Tinder, you can message the potential person and start a
conversation. While many sites work for people and the internet is where
you can meet potential others, it can cause problems in the relationship. Spending
too much time online while with your significant other can hurt your
relationship. It can cause many factors like jealousy and lack of trust. Using
social media sites constantly like Facebook has resulted in cheating, and/or
breakups. Some people use Facebook as a way to physically or verbally cheat.
Even if people aren’t using Facebook to cheat, it could start an argument and
cause jealousy. (Clayton, Nagurney, & Smith, 2013). Some people
may use social media as a way to stalk their significant other and keep tabs on
what they are doing (Marshall, Bejanyan, Castro & Lee, 2012). It can
cause lack of communication and constant fights (Roberts & Dunbar,
2010). Social media and the increasing use of it have a more negative
effect on relationships than a positive one.
By
decreasing the time spent on the internet, there are more chances to work
things out in your relationship and less likely have to deal with all the
negative factors associated.
TURN CONSTANT FIGHTING ABOUT SOCIAL MEDIA INTO BEING
HAPPY WITH YOUR SIGNIFICANT OTHER
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Discussion:
1.)
Have you used online dating and found your significant other?
2.)
Are you constantly fighting with your partner over these problems?
3.) What would you like to change?
References:
Clayton, R. B., Nagurney, A., Smith, J. R. (2013). Cheating, breakup, and divorce: Is facebook use to blame?. Mary Ann Liebert Inc., 16(10). doi: 10.1089/cyber.2012.0424
Deguzman, C. (2013). I forgot my phone. Retrieved from https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OINa46HeWg8
Roberts, S. & Dunbar, R. (2010). Communication in social networks: Effects of kinship, network size, and emotional closeness. Personal Relationships, 18(2011), 439-452. doi:
10.1111/j.1475-6811.2010.01310.
References:
Clayton, R. B., Nagurney, A., Smith, J. R. (2013). Cheating, breakup, and divorce: Is facebook use to blame?. Mary Ann Liebert Inc., 16(10). doi: 10.1089/cyber.2012.0424
Deguzman, C. (2013). I forgot my phone. Retrieved from https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OINa46HeWg8
Marshall, T. C., Bejanyan, K., Di Castro, G., & Lee, R. A. (2013). Attachment styles as
predictors of facebook-related jealousy and surveillance in romantic relationships.
Personal Relationships, 20(1), 1-22. Roberts, S. & Dunbar, R. (2010). Communication in social networks: Effects of kinship, network size, and emotional closeness. Personal Relationships, 18(2011), 439-452. doi:
10.1111/j.1475-6811.2010.01310.
Whitty, M. & Buchanan, T. (2009). Looking for love in so many places: Characteristics of online daters and speed daters. Interpersona, 3(2), 63-86.
